I remember the first time this realization hit me. When you are stuck in Social Quicksand, you become worried that another human might have a chemical reaction in their brain about your actions. You see, at a biological level, a thought is really just a chemical reaction in the human brain, yet it is astonishing to see that so many smart people can be stopped in their tracks by the chance that another human might have a thought about them.
Now that we've talked a ton about the perils of Social Quicksand, let's talk about the easiest way to cure it using a simple perspective shift. Today's video is about the story of the Social Quicksand I encountered when I was building my first business and how I overcame it.Īt first glance, this video is funny, but once you realize just how easily someone can abandon their beliefs in order for them to fit into the crowd, this video can actually be quite terrifying. Regardless of what decisions you choose to make, encountering Social Quicksand is part of life that you will have to deal with if you want to stand out from the crowd. Social psychologists have long studied the phenomenon of Social Quicksand, but they refer to it is "social conformity" - a name that doesn't do justice to just how dangerous this phenomenon can actually be to your health and happiness. While the Quicksand's intentions are good - being that it wants to keep you safe and part of your group - you'll never be able to flourish unless you find the courage to walk on your own steady ground. to bigger things such as starting a business when all of your friends have traditional jobs. It shows up in tiny things such as losing weight when you've always had a few extra pounds. To further make his point, Maher noted a USA Today headline reading, 'I Wish I Could Cancel Matt Damon,' and another from the Washington Post that stated, 'Damon Has More Damonsplaining to Do. Social Quicksand creeps up any time you are faced with a decision that will improve your life, but that might also disappoint your friends or family - even a little bit.
While Social Quicksand is absolutely vital to our success as social animals, it can be paralyzing - leaving you stuck in a bog of confusion and mediocrity. Social Quicksand is that curious feeling that you get when you are about to do something outside of your comfort zone and your brain says things like: Yep, it's as easy as that.Believe it or not your life has been dramatically shaped by a phenomenon called " Social Quicksand.” It might feel like you're " breaking" the cornstarch and water mixture. Notice how the faster motion creates a more solid substance.
But if you don't move, meaning don't apply pressure to the substance, the quicksand will behave like a liquid and you will float up to the top. Which means that it can no longer support weight, like, for example, a person walking over it, which is why you get " sucked" into it. The sand is so saturated with water that the friction between sand particles if reduced. Quicksand is made up of sand (a granular material), clay and water.
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